February 14, 2009
Colin Ryane
Love is a Wonderful
thing...
Or is it? What is it?
Do you mean by being “Loved” that another is flowing
energy towards them in a p ositive way, and they feel
'loved'?
If so, the converse then seems to be
also true:
“If I am not feeling 'good' vibes from such
and such a person, then they don't love me.
or then I don’t feel loved and this is a bad
thing…”
Do you see the difference between the two sentences?
You say yes; but do you?
OK, one says I feel love than the second one says I
don't... Right?
so, Are you miserable because I lack love...(my
comment -is that right?)
Cupidon
(French for Cupid),
by
Bouguereau,
1875
Look closer at 2 the sentences: one has 'if
...then' and is different.
When you notice you are saying 'If 'I only
had love, 'then' I would or could or... now
you can see that there is an expectation that you
are operating from a belief.
There are many issues here.
Lets look a bit further.
How do you know that someone is sending love your
way...
'cause it feels good' you say...OK
If someone ignores you, then is that
unlove? does it feel bad? if a stranger in
wall mart doesn't acknowledge your presence as you
pass them by and you don't see them either (except
to avoid hitting them with your shopping cart)
then is that a 'not love' situation?
You say 'no' I hear...
'because I don't expect them too do
anything...
so the first sentence is an observation with
emotional expectations, the second is both the
observation and the emotional expectations. It is a
program in you that say poor me: when I push the
'on' button the TV will come come on and will play
the 'poor me' program - 'I have no love'; that is
what you feel. The preplanned and you feel this -but
you can change the channel.
A small girl has a little frog, oopps a small boy,
(my mistake, our society says little girls don't
like little frogs - more beliefs)
and he 'loves' the little frog so he hugs it, just
like his mom does to him. He is sending all kinds of
good energy to the little green thing. So he is
loving it right? to it death, squeezes to hard.
So does he love it? I would say no. I would say he
is operating from a preprogrammed behavior and that
is not love in my book, but in his.
It doesn't give him (her) the right outcome she is
expecting.
So, do feel then, unloved if you don't
get bunch of flowers, a card, a nice dinner? Or do
you feel unloving if you don't give something to
your beloved? These are beliefs. And I would say
nothing to do with love - but your rules.
Look inside is there a 'If ....then'
rule? I have them.
If she gives me a card... she loves me. she thought
enough to go out, look around a store, find a card,
sign it, put it in an envelope, and give it to me.
There for I am loved. no card, no love, I have been
miserable over that rule.
But I forgot the times, she paid for my lunch, my
dinner, my bill payments when I couldn't, I forgot
that she is tiered when she comes home from working
all day, and doesn't feel like talking to me and is
'ignoring' me - right! Only if I have to feel right
! but i am incorect. She loves me - in her way and
in her language.
Truth is I had to learn her language of love, if I
wanted to feel it.
To do that I had to get my emotions under control,
back into neutral, be Present again, and look
at life in the here and now, I had to look in
reality.
Did I give her a diamond bracelet? no. Bunches of
flowers? nope. What does she really want? Me bring
in more than enough income to handle what needs to
be taken care of... She does this - she just would
like to be matched. Do I ? about 1/2 time yes I
do...
So what is love?
Lets look at the first sentence again... Love is
flowing positive energy to another. I would like to
add and it is mutually felt and reciprocated, in a
timeless deep understanding of unemotional joy,
peace, and liquid positive energy called 'ananda' or
bliss.
Paramahamsa Yogananda chants in 'Oh God beautiful'
to the lover thou art love...
this mutual state of energy flowing back and forth
around and through the beloved so that one could not
say where it starts nor ends. It is a oneness of
unconditional love; A focus on each other and not on
another. The key is the focus not the object of the
focus.
I see that when the focus changes, say a man or
women looks to or at another, instead of at the once
lover, all hell breaks out in the one who has lost
the focus of the other person.
'Hell hath no fury like a women scorned' is the
observation of many playwrights.
Love of money is ... this is another belief about
love. but the phrase is not this, it is one cannot
serve 2 masters. One cannot serve mammon or money or
fame and the lord at the same time. If you look at
the lives of very wealthy people you will both sides
of this: some die penniless, lonely and miserable,
others are a blessing to everyone they meet, know
and do business with. It is not the money but the
attitude about it that is the key.
So, Love lets look at the Chant of 'Oh God
Beautiful' again. Some are seeking love - lovers
are... some are seeking other things:
In the mountain thou art high, in the river
restless, in the ocean grave... You move in many
ways, you magical God...
To the sorrowful thou art sympathy, --- can one who
is sorrowful feel the loving of another? maybe but
that kind of intertwining love sought by the lover
is not able to be felt, while the grieving is going
on, sympathy is the form of Love Yogananda indicates
in this case, at this time, in this temporay
situation. (Like medicine it is given for a limited
time as it is needed; latter another medicine may be
required.)
Paramahamsa Yogananda and great Yogis like Swami
Shivananda, act in the present, the 'here and now'
they also do not practice the lovers love between
the sexes, interesting...
Take Mahatma Gandhi, did he love his wife? and she
him? Very deeply, but they only had sex four times (
I believe) and each time they had a child and
practiced no sex at other times. does this mean they
didn't love each other? It would have in our society
- she would have divorced him and the marriage
counselors would condemn his actions as well; Simply
because of different rules..(If ... then) and
beleifs and the idea of 'rightness: my belief is
"right" '.
When one applies rules they miss the present
situation. Rules are guidelines only, but if you
apply the rule unconsciously or unknowingly you may
come to wrong conclusion.
'well, love means: ... card, bracelet, hug for over
10 minutes, kiss for over 5 minutes, sex only is
such and such a way and not others, dinner, dance,
what ever it is the rule inside your program only.
There for the joy or feeling of being loved only
inside you, or being shunned is inside you as well.
Find the belief, inspect the belief, see if it
serves you, change it if you wish...
Change the belief = change the resultant feeling;
change the channel.
Take another line of the chant:
To the Yogi thou art bliss....
This is 'Ananda' the liquid light flowing of
indescribable bliss of universal love knowing no
bounds, no rules, no limitations, no beliefs, but
'IS'. Pure 'hereness'; Pure Presence. Pure
'Knowing'. Pure Truth.
Swami Shivananda sang:
I am neither mind nor body
immortal self I am
Witness of 3 States
Knowledge Absolute.
Sat chit ananda rupa...
Sat: Truth, Knowledge
Chit: Divine spark consciousness
Ananda: Bliss
put all of those together...
and you will experience a permanet LOVE.
Loving attention is always appreciated, but there is
a time for it and everything else under heaven. You
tap into the state of permanet love, but think it
comes from the partner or can be felt only with
them. This is a lie. This here is the source.
The best love I experience is when I get centered
and connect my 3 selves together. This is my
conscious self (driver of the car) my companion self
(the car with all of its power) and my High Self.
The bliss and love is fluid healing. This is then
passed on to another in healing energy through the
hands, eyes, intention, words, etc., etc., etc.
How could the King in “the King and & I” show the
love to the European teacher girl?
He tried very hard but he had to die - it was the
only way to get around all of his rules and beliefs
clashing; to let his son take over the country and
make the changes. In this way he could honor the
lady’s teaching and ‘love’ both her, and his
country.
May you rise above your limiting beliefs; create
beliefs that will support you on your path; and
experience more of what you want: Pure Love.
oh, are you on a path of your choosing?
This may be the message for you today.
Inspect the path you are on: observe your actions;
journal them.
May you then travel the path you want to be
treading.
If you can tune into the higher self of
person, and help them in the way they recongnise as
unconditional truth, or love, then they will
know you love them. even if it only your smile...
how's that for a new belief?
here' another one:
If we can market to a person in the same
manner as above, a product that they instantly
recongnise as a bennfit to themselves, and we only
want them to have it because it will help them;
Then instant love, and money will flow.
Shoot your arrows cupid, please have a conscious
aim. |
Hosts
~ A Holistic Way to Go..
